Why Do We Assume?

June 14, 2017

That people become innocent creatures once they accept Christ? We have been forgiven and washed clean, but let's not disregard the fact that sin knocks on a Believer's door more so now than ever. In my mind, I don't see a Christian as any different than any other sinner - except for their profession of Faith and their decision to turn their life around.

So, why is it that we hold to this expectation/stereotype that once we become a Believer, we are immune to sin?

It's utter nonsense! We turn our lives over to Christ and make a "conscious" decision to follow the straight and narrow. It doesn't come easy. It wasn't supposed to be easy. It won't be easy.

If we believe that the Christian life is going to be all hunky-dory, then we are feeding ourselves lies. We are displaying to a lost world a lie. Not everyone experiences a physical/overly spiritual change when they accept Christ. It's an unrealistic expectation.

Just because a person isn't glowing and oozing with a sticky-sweet-Jesus-freak type of love, we shouldn't question their Faith. And to expect to see a dramatic change in someone is unprecedented.

What are we showing the world if we cannot even accept that, we as Christians, experience Christ in different ways? What are we showing the world when we project this air of Christian perfection? Stand out? Be different? Good.

However, I think that we do an Injustice to a lost world when we try to hide the fact that we, too, are still sinners. The only thing separating us from the pack is that we are under the Freedom of Grace.

I am a sinner, saved by Grace. And I use my past and present mistakes, my story of redemption, to show others that Christ doesn't care where you've been or where you're at now, but cares only for where you're headed when your time here on Earth is finished.

It's not a license to sin, to be sure. But if we cannot show the world our scars, confess to them our mistakes, and own up to the fact that we are far from perfect (regardless of the stupid stigma we try to uphold), then what are we doing? It seems to me that we are putting up a fake front, and playing a critical and debilitating part in a stained glass masquerade.

**That's the end of my musings for the day.**

among other things...

January 12, 2017

Working as a full-time student and employee has its advantages. Apparently, you are planting seeds wherever you go in hopes that one day, when you have the education, you need to begin really stretching your wings, that you've made strong, lasting connections with people who can help you reach your goals.


If you had asked me where I saw myself headed in 2010-2012, I would likely have given you a morbid answer. I didn't see myself going anywhere aside from the grave. My eating disorder held me back. After months and months of treatment and therapy, I began to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Granted, I wanted to reach the light, like, NOW. But in the scheme of things, there was no fast forward button through the healing process. And here was definitely not a rewind button to push to erase what I had done.


As I headed back to school, I honestly felt so behind - like a late bloomer who had lost all her spunky and creativity to medication and emotional exhaustion. I was alive; yes. But inside I still felt so far from where my peers were at, and it was all due to the choices I made my Senior year in high school. I had held myself back. I was the reason I wasn't on par with my friends, or where I wanted to be. I wasn't living up to my perfectionist ideals, I felt. Yet, wasn't that the very thing that tried to kill me?


While I never kicked my perfectionist tendencies completely to the curb (there is some good that comes from needing to do your best), I now know that there is a fine line between what is appropriate and what is unhealthy. So, believe me when I say this: never in the last 6 years did I think that I would be here today - a 2017 WKU graduate making her dreams come true.


I might not be where I want to be just yet, but I'm confident that God has me where I need to be. He always has, since I was little, placed a love of History and writing on my heart. Now, I am finally starting to be able to see where He is leading me. This time, I'm not going to get in His way. //

Men are from Mars

January 1, 2017

He looks at you and smiles. For the first time you don't feel invisible. You're surfing on crystal waves seafoam that rises up in the darkest corners of your heart, like an ocean swelling up to meet the shoreline. His stare is intense. His body language is sharing with you a message of sincere intent. He knows you like him, and he feels confident enough to to grab your hand and tell you the same. He's not ashamed to be with you, and in your heart you can't think of anyone better to trip over daisies for.

But there is always this edginess in the back of your mind that is alert and ready prepared with that unoriginal but protective "fight or flight" response. if he is as genuine as he seems, then fighting for a relationship is a response that we, as women, if confident and willing, feel a deep yearning to go into battle to secure. Yet, mixed signs and a lack of communication (although this is a normal thing for men, I assure you) can trigger the flight response because the feelings of being undervalued and unwanted sweep across our minds like a wild fire, wreaking havok on our self-confidence and self-esteem.

I often ask questions that ponder what I've done wrong to deserve this coldness (if that's even what his projecting). Did we say something to offend him? Am I too much - too little? Am I not pretty enough, smart enough to, sexy enough? What is it about me that "offends" him? I am the girl with that flight response that wants to stay and fight when the tough gets going. But if there is a lack of intent of interest or respect, I will drop any man that does not give me the time of day, or fit my standards. Now, I am not self-righteous, and don't see myself as a high and mighty goddess who deserves to be treated like a queen. No! I would hate that, to be honest. But, like most girls it would seem, my standards include:

▪ Honesty
▪ Loyalty
▪ Similar beliefs
▪ Acceptance
▪ Sincerity
▪ Communication (even if we stink at it!)
▪ Humor
▪ Humility
▪ Honor
▪ Valor

If he cannot show me he can live up to these standards, then I simply cannot convince myself to adore a man who simply - for the lack of better words - isn't that into me. If I wanted a "good time" - apparently that's all dating is these days - I would not be putting in serious effort to find someone with a good head on their shoulders and has upstanding morals. I don't invest my time in people who don't wish to stay and invest in me also. A relationship built solely on the expectation that I will not develop an emotional attachment is doomed to fail from the very start. And I will not stoop to that level of degradation. I respect myself too much to lower my standards and be some dude's "second choice."

If a man is genuinely interested in a woman, he will treat her with respect, stare at her shamelessly with a look of adoration and pride. He might not say much - he might be a quiet man; don't let that affect how you view him. Because, in all honesty, men are from Mars and do things differently. They're wired for relationships differently and we, as women, need to realize this and respect that, and develop a level of patience.

If he holds your hand, respects your boundaries, says kind words to you (even on the rarest occasion), and allows you to be who you are and enjoys your company, he's obviously smitten.
But beware; some guys are smooth criminals that use this to their advantage - to get unlimited sex from a vulnerable girl. Do not disparity, though! If you have respect for yourself and him, too, then you're going to realize that your worth more than what a jerk is willing to invest time and effort into. So, when the right man comes along (and it might be a while), you'll be ready for a strong man who is capable of loving a strong and confident woman.

Just you wait, darlings. There is no need to stay where you're not wanted. You deserve more, and there is nothing wrong with waiting. Slow and steady wins the race, and God's got the best prize waiting for you at the end of the finish line!

Of more value than many Sparrows

December 8, 2016


The last few weeks have been gut wrenching. That is, I have been holding onto my stomach for fear that it will get carried away by thousands of little butterflies (or, maybe dragons?) that have been causing me to lose sleep and hate the sight of food.

College classes, those that I enjoy, have never caused me problems. I have always excelled, and go above and beyond the professors expectations. I know that sounds like bragging. And it is in some ways. (I need an ego boost after this semester, okay?!) I am not trying to discourage anyone or make them feel like their semester was a total fail because someone had it "easier." In fact, this semester was the worst I have ever had. And I hope that it is the only one that I will ever have to face.

With all that said, the point of this post is not to brag about passing classes or how easy it is to rattle on and on about history facts. No, what I wanted to share with you all today is that no matter how your semester is (or has) turned out, in the grand scheme of life, your grade(s) don't define you.
If our weight isn't supposed to define us, then why should a grade letter? Getting a good grade, or having a 4.0 GPA does not indicate the success you will have in life. Sure, some of you will be lucky ones who've been gifted with wonderful opportunities. For those of us, however, who are on a different path, understand that even Bill Gates failed at first, but eventually surpassed his engineering friends to go on to be CEO of Microsoft.

Success is not instantaneous for a lot of us. Remember that. Also, remember what God says about success. I'm pretty sure that He doesn't use a grading system to measure your worth and intelligence.
Here are some verses I find to be helpful reminders when I am feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to succeed beyond what I have been designed and wired to do:


Matthew 10:31
"Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows."

2 Corinthians 12:9-10
"But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong."

Philippians 3:13-14
“Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”

1 Timothy 6:12
“Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses.”

Matthew 6:33-34
"Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself."

Romans 8:28
"And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose."

Matthew 6:25-34
“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. ..."

1 Samuel 16:7
"But the Lord said to Samuel, 'Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.'"

5 Reasons Why Being Single is Awesome

November 18, 2016

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The world places this expectation on women that predicates a woman's worth by her relationship status. Don't get me wrong, I dislike being single as much as the next girl; however, how you handle being single says a lot about your spiritual and mental maturity. If you're adamant about being in a relationship and do not have a clue about what you're intentions are behind this need to be in a relationship, then how can you ever expect to find someone who is serious about HIS intentions? If you're wishy-washy about what you're looking for in a man (a GODLY man), then why are you even looking at all? The purpose of dating I have come to realize (after many failed dates) is that if you don't know what you want you're either going to go on countless crappy dates and get burned out in the process, or you're going to fall into the "play boy love trap" and become consumed in a loveless romance that is stagnant, and often comes with long-term repercussions if you are not solid in your values and morals and faith.

Seriously though, why do we place so much emphasis on being in a relationship? My biggest question is why are we afraid of being "alone" and being the black sheep in society? Being single is nothing to fret about! There is never a moment where it should ever be something you should worry about. I say this because I know what it's like to get sick over the idea that you'll be forever alone. Well, who cares?! Quite honestly, I find that being single is a much better option than being tied to a man than is less than God's best.

Singleness is a season of life that we need to take advantage of (I am talking to myself here, too!) and appreciate it for what it is: freedom to serve God with reckless abandon. I have thought a lot about being single. A LOT. Sometimes it's because I am wallowing in self-pity.

There, I said it!

However, there are other times when I am perfectly and incandescently happy with my current relationship status. And when that occurs (now more often than naught), I find that it is amazingly easy to find a plethora of things to appreciate about the single life. There is a huge list of pros and cons about dating, but if you think about it....there's really nothing to lose by being single!

NOTHING.

So, since I am sitting her going on and on about singleness and how there are actually good things about this season of life, I've jotted down my top five reasons why being single is awesome-sauce. 

ONE: You have time to grow the most as an individual. There is nothing more attractive than knowing who you are and being in touch with your dreams and passions! Take time to discover them, and fall in love with yourself in the process.

TWO: You can RELAX. Trust me, God has something BETTER in store for you than this One Direction fantasy you have on repeat in your cute little noggin. It's OKAY to be picky.

THREE: Focus on Christ and build your relationship with Him. Building a relationship with Christ will not only teach you a thing or two about true love, but what it really means to serve and protect and, of course genuinely and intentionally LOVE. You need to rely on God before you can count on anyone else.
FOUR: Explore and create and serve. You have a lot of time to devote to doing things you enjoy, and whether it be volunteering for a good cause, creating a masterpiece, or traveling the globe do it wholeheartedly and do it in a way that brings Glory to God! Whatever you do make it count!

FIVE: You are owned and operated by the Holy Spirit...not the world. Who said you have to follow the status quo? Break the mold and embrace what you know is truth! If a guy passes you up because you're a virgin, or are done playing games and want to get serious about your intentions, DO NOT SWEAT IT. Be thankful that God sent that dude packing and move on. There's nothing wrong with being a good girl who values herself, and is confident and independent. Allowing God to teach you about patience and contentment is not a curse, but a blessing. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.